But how many of those very same people actually achieve those goals? In reality, a small percentage, but you don’t have to be among them. You can be one of the people who accomplishes their dreams, achieves great success and feels satisfied in life. Goals — even big ones — are not as unattainable as you might imagine. It’s all in how you approach them, and I’ve got some suggestions that will help you get a head start and make progress on your path toward achieving anything in life you desire.
1) First you focus, and then you plan. It’s not enough to simply say, for example, “I want to be rich.” Ask yourself why that’s important to you, and how you are going to achieve it. Will you open your own business? Will you launch a tech start up and someday sell it for millions? One of the biggest hurdles people face is not knowing how they are going to achieve their dreams, and understanding that it takes detailed planning, education (sometimes) and a lot of other elements. So, ask yourself: what are the steps I need to take on my path? And write them down; no one became successful by jotting down ideas on a cocktail napkin! You need to know all the steps in front of you, and then plan how you’ll achieve each one. For example: you may need a college degree, but don’t have the family funding for it. That’s a hurdle you can overcome with a scholarship. But you need good grades, right? The earlier you start thinking about and planning for the things you want to achieve, the earlier you can begin ticking some items off your list.
2) Focus on the rewards your achievement brings, not the money. Many wealthy people say that they were not inspired by money, but rather by what that money allowed them to do. It gives you freedom, perhaps, but not satisfaction in the way that, for example, establishing a charitable foundation does. Look at Bill and Melinda Gates: their foundation gives out millions of dollars every year, most recently to fight COVID-19 in poor areas of America. Gates has often said that this is the true rewards of wealth — helping others. It may sound corny, but helping your community is likely one of the benefits of achieving wealth.
3) Never fear failure, for it will surely come. No matter what you are trying to achieve, chances are you’ll fail somewhere along the line. If, for example, you’ve set a weight loss goal and managed to shed 25 pounds, but then went to a party and snacked all evening. The following day, the scale shows you’re up a pound or two, and you feel terrible about it. Remember, everyone fails at some point, even when they’re in the midst of accomplishing something great. Bill Gates quit Harvard. So did Mark Zuckerberg. They didn’t worry one bit about not accomplishing their goals in a traditional way, because they had bigger plans.
I am advocating you quit college, of course! I am saying that not every achievement is made on a straight line, and you will fail along the way. But if you don’t lose sight of the big picture, of how important the goal is and the rewards it will bring, chances are you’ll do fine.
Remember, everyone imagines a life of big accomplishments and successes, but not everyone has the grit, stamina and determination to achieve them.
You can — just don’t let go of your dreams, be sure what’s required of you to make them come true, and get started as soon as your plans are in place. And doing something you love, something that makes your rise enthusiastically each day, goes a long way, too. Combine these forces and nothing can stop you from achieving your goals.read more
How To Overcome Fear & Achieve Your Dreams: Sometimes the biggest hurdle we face in trying to achieve our dreams is the one we throw in our own way: fear. Fear comes in many forms — fear of change, fear of leaving others behind, and even fear of success can impede progress and hamper goals. But dealing with fear — recognizing it and overcoming it — leads to achieving dreams, because you’re no longer hamstrung by paralyzing thoughts and dark fantasies. With a little discipline, you can harness your fears and even use them to get further along your life’s path to success and satisfaction.
The next time fear stops you in your tracks, keep these ideas in mind for coping and overcoming it:
How To Overcome Fear
1) Instead of always focusing on one, big dream (“I want my own business by the time I’m 30,) plan the small steps you can take along that route. For example, being an intern in a business that intrigues you is a great investment in your future. You get an inside peek into how the business works, but not all the responsibility for its success is on your shoulders — yet. When you’ve achieved each “smaller” dream, plan the next one!
2) Make a chart that clarifies your biggest dreams and how you’ll get there. Seeing it all down in black and white is a clarifying experience that lets you cut through the fog and focus. It’s not enough to say, “I want to be rich!” Design a chart with concrete steps that show how you plan to make that dream come true.
3) Make a five-year plan but be willing to change, if necessary. Not every step you plan will be achievable — that’s the nature of life. But if you are realistic and make detailed goals, you’ll find fear less overwhelming because you’ll be prepared. But don’t be afraid to make “carpe diem” your motto — “seize the day!” If you are too rigid because you’re afraid to fail, you’ll be paralyzed by inaction. Fear of failure really means fear of action, because there are no actions that don’t include risk. Embrace the notion of failure as a temporary setback, and there will be almost nothing to fear.
4) Have a support network on which you can rely, people who share your vision and believe in your abilities. People you can talk to when you’re afraid, who can keep the issue in perspective and offer suggestions for dealing with it. No one succeeds on their own; they rely on friends, family, business mentors and others to help navigate turbulent, scary times.
5) Be honest to yourself about your strengths and weaknesses, and always play to those strengths. For example, if you don’t like being alone, should you become a writer? Probably not. But a retail environment or other business might be perfect because you spend time with others. So be realistic, even when you’re dreaming about what you’d love to do most. No matter what you’re hoping to achieve in life, fear is bound to beset you at one point or another. Embrace it, face it, and keep it in perspective.
Prepare for fear even before you start your journey. That way, when it presents itself, you’ll have strategies in place for dealing with it. You’ll have others to turn to who will lessen your fear and help you cope. Set small goals and tick them off your list every time you achieve one. Keeping fear in perspective, and understanding that everyone experiences it sooner or later is the most important strategy for achieving your dreams.read more