A lot of people are quick to criticize themselves and get mired down in everything that’s wrong with their life, like a boot getting caught in quicksand.
These people know, intellectually, that this is a useless endeavor that only keeps us stuck and unable to achieve our best in life. But how to stop it? How to rid yourself of negative thinking and live your best, most fulfilling life? I’ve got some ideas to help you break this vicious cycle, the one that has you trapped in negativity and feeling like you’ll never break free.
1) First you name it, and then you can tame it. This is an old adage in therapy circles, and that’s because it is so true. How can you overcome negativity if you can’t pinpoint its source? You can’t. You’ve got to do the work to discover the root of these feelings; that’s the only way you’ll ever overcome them. For example: let’s say you are chronically insecure about your appearance. Did someone, a parent perhaps, make you feel like you were never attractive enough, never smart enough, never enough, period? Parental influences leave lasting impressions on children, and if yours were negative, it causes problems. You’ve got to focus, let those attitudes go — you’re an adult now — and practice positive reinforcement every time you look in the mirror.
2) Be around positive thinkers and winners. Don’t surround yourself with folks who reinforce negativity — they make everything worse. Have coffee or lunch with a friend or colleague who is upbeat and sunny; people like that are infectious. Their good mood can easily become your good mood if you let it.
3) Regret & guilt are no one’s friend. I know this is a tall order, but you must try focusing on the present, not past mistakes and “if only.” That mindset gets you nowhere, and contributes to keeping you mired in negativity and self-criticism. It’s tough, but ask yourself: what do I accomplish when I focus on the past? The answer? Absolutely nothing. If you must think back to old times, choose a cherished, positive memory, like the day you got promoted or the day you met your spouse. Remembering those moments induces calm, happiness and the knowledge that, often, you make good choices and accomplish goals.
4) Stop believing your harshest critic — you. Negative emotions come from a deep well of insecurity and self-doubt. These are what you must quell if you’re going to start living a better, more satisfying life. Here’s a tip: ask someone close to you to name your three best characteristics. I guarantee you’ll be amazed how quickly they respond, and how easy it is for them to name those three traits. You’re a lot more wonderful than you may realize!
5) Establish an ordered morning routine. Not surprisingly, people who don’t get out of bed at a set time with an established routine — shower, coffee, breakfast, exercise — fall prey to negativity much more frequently than their organized counterparts. That’s because their lives feel purposeless, and it’s a short step from there to negativity and gloom. Even if you’re temporarily out of work and therefore home all morning, don’t discard the routine you established when employed. Disorganized habits lead to a disorganized mind.
If you are genuinely struggling with deep negativity that keeps you from getting out of bed, it’s time to seek professional help.
But if, like many people, you fall prey to these emotions occasionally, practice these steps and get out of the mental trap you’ve created. It is possible to break the cycle and move on to live your best, most productive life. But it’s up to you — you’re in charge of making your life fantastic. Silencing that inner critic and surrounding yourself with positive people who love and admire you is an important first step.
How To Stay Positive & Achieve Your Goals
For successful people, giving up is not an option. That’s just one characteristic so many truly successful people have in common — the Oprahs of this world, the Walt Disneys , the Steven Kings, the JK Rowlings– they stared down failure, dusted themselves off, and got on with the job of trying again.
You can too if you follow some of the principles they did. Here are just a few of those guidelines:
1) Accept failure because it’s bound to come. Did you know that Walt Disney went bankrupt, a lot, before ever getting his first cartoon on big screens or finding financing for his first theme park? He did, but each time he simply moved on and started over. He insisted to many folks that money was never his prime motivation, and that was what kept him going. He had a dream, he wanted it badly, and knew the money would come eventually — what mattered was realizing his dream.
2) Successful people are optimistic. Anyone who has dealt with failure and loss knows that the only way to keep going is to believe, wholeheartedly, that things will soon change for the better. They are steadfast optimists, not pessimists. Don’t be a “glass is half empty” kind of person — the glass is half full, always, if you look at it from the right perspective.
3) Be inspired and inspire others. Getting others to believe in your dreams and goals is a big part of success, whether it’s your local banker, from whom you need a start up loan, or your life partner, whom you need to undertake this journey with you. If you can inspire them, they will do whatever they can to help you succeed.
4) Take risks. Colonel Harlan Sanders had retired from running a restaurant when he decided to start asking other places to carry his (now famous) fried chicken. He was collecting his pension, but didn’t want to stop working. Sources say he was turned down more than 1,000 times by some restaurants, but by 1964 he had 600 franchises, making it big serving his “secret spices” chicken. He sold the business later that year but stayed on as spokesman. What’s the lesson here? Success knows no age boundaries!
5) There is no correlation between success and smarts. You don’t have to have a wildly high I.Q. to achieve your dreams — you have to know your business, sure, but you don’t have to be “book smart” in the traditional sense. Remember what Mark Twain said: “I never let school get in the way of my education.” In other words, he learned by doing, by experience and interacting with others. That’s not to say school isn’t important; it’s just not a guarantee of success. It’s a tool to be used wisely, one step on the ladder to achieving your dreams.
If you keep these tips in mind — embracing failure, setting money goals aside, developing people skills, and other secrets — you too can do the work necessary to become genuinely successful. Perhaps most importantly, never let failure deter you from your true aspirations and dreams. Everyone fails, sooner or later; what counts is how soon, and in what way, you get back on your feet again.read more
Six Steps For Coping With Aggressive People
We talk about bullying a lot today because it has moved from the physical realm — which was bad enough — to the online world, too. Whether it’s your children being bullied by someone at school or you being bullied by a co-worker, this behavior makes life miserable. But there are strategies for coping that are recommended by experts; employ them, and life will get easier. It may take a little time, but these tactics do work, no matter how bad the situation.
1) Don’t Ignore It: If you’re imagining that the bullying will stop if you just pretend it isn’t happening, or that you are making it out to be worse than it is, stop right now. Bullying is real, and the sooner you deal with the aggressor in your life, the happier you (or your child) will be.
2) Don’t React Emotionally: If your child is being hurt, it’s hard not to react with all guns blazing. But to be truly effective, you must be calm. If it’s a co-worker, you could jeopardize your position if you get emotional in the work place, or respond while others are around. Walk away, calm down, and plan how to deal with this person in a rational manner. Bullies love provoking a response, so don’t give it to them. That’s often enough to dampen their aggression and turn their attention to someone else. You can’t change them, but you can stop giving them the reactions they seek.
3) Set Boundaries: If there’s someone disrupting your attempts to get work done, don’t let them. Tell them your office or work station is off limits, and involve your boss, if you must. Speak up, but do it calmly and don’t react in kind. In other words, if the bully launches a personal attack, insist on keeping your response purely professional. It may take a bit of time, but the bully will turn their attention elsewhere when they see you aren’t reacting as they’d hoped.
4) Be Consistent: Don’t get angry one moment, burst into tears the next, and walk away the third time. You’ve got to respond quietly and calmly each and every time if you want to diffuse the situation completely.
5) Use A Mediator, If Necessary: If the situation continues to devolve, ask your superior to intervene — that’s their job. Productivity lessens when a bully thrives in a workplace, and no employer wants that. Plan your case ahead of time, ask to see your boss, and lay out your complaint, but again — don’t let it get personal. Keep your comments specific. For example, don’t say, “He steals my ideas.” Instead, say something like, “On the Harris account, I worked three evenings to design the ad campaign.” Explain how you generated the ideas, and how the office bully tried to take credit for them. Trust us, your boss doesn’t want bullying in the office any more than you want to be a target of it.
6) Use Resources: Most communities have therapists, mediators and outreach programs for dealing with bullying. Utilize all of them, if need be. You’ll find plenty of resources and strategies online, too.
Your child’s well being, and your satisfaction in the workplace, are at stake. Life is too short to have bullies ruining our day. Use these techniques, and the situation will improve quickly, we promise!read more
A lot of words have been spoken and a lot of ink has been spilled about the power of positive thinking. Bestsellers have been sold worldwide to eager audiences wanting to know: what is the secret? What are the benefits? Can I really train myself to become a positive thinker, and if so, how does positive thinking help?
The answer is yes – you can become a positive thinker, and yes, it helps in every avenue of your life. Banishing negative thoughts and negative people from your life are key ingredients of becoming a positive thinker, and there are other strategies you can use that will allow you to reap the benefits of a new, optimistic attitude. It’s not always easy; it’s tempting to slide backward into cynicism and doubt, but following a few guidelines will make the process start to come easily. Once you’ve mastered these techniques, you’ll see and feel those benefits flowing into your life.
If you believe in yourself and your success, it will happen. That’s not a theory; it’s fact. Have you ever known a successful person who didn’t believe in themselves? No. To become rich, in every sense of the word – money, love, relationships – you have to believe you are deserving. That shift in focus and energy brings positive results, because others start to believe in you, too. Others want to be around happy, upbeat, positive people, in their business and personal relationships. When you’re one of those people, folks just naturally want to be around your energy and spirit. It’s like an invisible, magnetic pull. And in a work situation, for example, that means that if there are four candidates for a promotion, and you’re the most positive, chances are your boss will promote you.
Negative emotions and thoughts can have a paralyzing effect, meaning you get less done, at work and at home. They create a sense of being overwhelmed, and that can cause you to freeze. But tackling responsibilities with gusto and energy, grateful that you have a lot to do rather than sitting idle, means you’ll get more done. When you approach a task with enthusiasm and energy, you’ll get that task done – and others – in a shorter time frame. You can then take on more projects, earn more money…you see where this is headed, right? Doing more leads to more rewards, it’s that simple. And a longer life and better health are also rewards of positive thinking; study after study has verified this.
A guiding principle of this shift to positive thinking is, always tell the truth, to yourself and others. That may sound simple – you don’t make a habit of lying to friends and family, right? — but lying to ourselves is one of man’s most common shortcomings. It might mean taking full responsibility for an error at work; it might mean owning up to a mistake made with a friend. That’s the only way we learn from our mistakes and grow, by admitting fault, accepting blame and moving forward with resolve that the same error won’t happen again. It’s acceptable and in fact necessary to make new mistakes; that demonstrates that we’re changing. But repeating the same old mistakes and denying our role in them keeps us stuck, in patterns, in cycles and in situations that are unhealthy, physically and emotionally.
Positive thinking is not accomplished overnight; it takes work, particularly if you’re inclined toward negative thinking by nature. But the rewards of that work are long-lasting, multidimensional and life-altering. Invest in yourself by committing to positive thinking for one day, as an experiment; you’ll instantly feel better when you view the “cup as half-full,” rather than half-empty. And everyone around you will feel better, too.read more
Marriage is hard. People do not always realize how much work goes into a strong marriage. They know that they feel love and affection for their spouses, but they do not know how to keep the fire going positively. Healthy marriages are built on love, commitment, and effort. No marriage is just strong because it is. The best thing you can do is to revisit those foundations of love, commitment, and effort.
You need love to have a healthy marriage. Not only do you need to love your spouse, but you also need to love yourself. Having self-respect and loving yourself will make communication and empathy much easier. Spouses that genuinely love each other tend to be more willing to take steps to improve their marriage. If you know you love your spouse but are having trouble, you might consider revisiting why you fell in love in the beginning. Some of the traits that were funny or endearing may have become irritating or frustrating. Was she a bit mysterious? Now you feel like you cannot see inside her feelings. Was he a jokester and made you laugh? Now you feel like you cannot have a serious conversation. Try to remind yourself why those traits were endearing. They helped you love your spouse.
You are committed to your spouse, which is evident since you married him or her. You need to revisit that commitment continually. You said vows to one another. Some of you may have said the traditional vows, but others of you may have written vows. No matter what you said, you committed to each other to honor your marriage and your love. Sometimes you have to commit to being a better communicator, listener, or spouse. No one is a perfect spouse. Sometimes we miscommunicate because our words are misunderstood. However, other times we are the ones who misunderstand. We can learn to be better communicators through marriage counseling, marriage workshops, and self-discovery.
Going to marriage counseling does not mean that you are not happy or that you are considering divorce. What it means is that something is not working, and you are making an effort to fix it. You may need a mediator or teacher to help you learn to change that thing. Often, the problem we are having is not what it seems. Most issues are a result of poor communication. Money, infidelity, and arguments are all communication concerns. For example, if one person is thrifty, but the other person is a frivolous spender, and there is no budget communication. One or both spouses will quickly get frustrated with their finances. The free spender may not communicate spending habits and overspend. The thrifty spouse will soon get frustrated. Likewise, the frugal spouse may complain quite frequently so that the free spender feels restricted. They will also be frustrated. Sometimes, they are unable to communicate these differences so that the other spouse understands. The best thing for them to do is to see a financial planner, marriage counselor, or trusted friend who can help them communicate better.
The Bottom Line
Many facets of love, commitment, and effort exist within a marriage. Cultivating each one like you would a delicate flower will help your marriage to blossom. You do not need to take drastic or extravagant steps. Taking each step one moment at a time and considering your faults as well as your desires will help you become a more reliable spouse. If each of you makes that effort and commitment to using your love to listen and communicate, your marriage will grow nearly indestructible before you know it.read more
Attaining your dreams is a daunting task; we live in a rushed, competitive world, and it seems that for every good idea we have, someone else may have thought of it too. But you can win, no matter what goals you set for yourself, with a little patience and a whole lot of persistence and belief in yourself – that’s the stuff that makes dreams come true.
Following a few simple guidelines will help ensure that you’re on the road to winning, however you define “winning” in your life. Is it having a successful business? Is it completing a high level of education? Is it traveling the globe? No matter what goals you devise, it is indeed possible to attain them, if you don’t let doubter and “naysayers” spoil your plans.
Set Goals: It’s important that you have concrete plans for your future, not just a vague idea of it. For example, it’s not enough to think, “I’d love to be wealthy.” Ask yourself: how will I become wealthy? What am I good at, and, most importantly, what am I passionate about?
Never Be Afraid To Fail: Very few people make a smashing success of their lives the first time at bat. We don’t always know exactly what we’re good at – and what we love – until we’ve tried different things, particularly in our careers. Don’t be afraid of something not working out; you’ll learn something about yourself and your talents and strengths, and that’s a valuable lesson moving forward.
Take Risks: There is little to be gained by playing it safe. Stretch yourself, try new ventures, and risk failure. Like the old adage tells us, “you can’t guarantee success if you don’t risk failure.” Almost everyone – businessmen, politicians, entrepreneurs – have all experienced failure at some point because they’ve been willing to take risks to succeed. A safe life is often not a satisfying one. Ask anyone at the end of his life what he thinks about, and inevitably he says it is what he did not do, because he was afraid of risk, not what he did do. Don’t let yourself be that person.
Stay Focused On Your Vision: Don’t let yourself get caught up in petty details that detract from your long-range vision. Your goal exists perhaps several years down the road; you will take steps to attain that goal, and some of them will be difficult, and sometimes you will trip up. But never lose sight of that vision. Keep it with you like a charm you wear around your neck; it’s always with you, part of you, part of what your life will become.
If you keep these simple guidelines in mind, you can win – at whatever you choose to do with your life. Is it easy? No. Is it quick? Not even a little. But winning is satisfying, fulfilling and means you’ve accomplished what you set out to do. There’s nothing better.
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How To Heal When You’ve Hit Rock Bottom:
Strategies For Recovery & Moving Forward
Hitting rock bottom usually means that life has dealt you blows in a lot of ways simultaneously. Your business isn’t doing well; your spouse has left, and a loved one — perhaps a parent — died recently. It takes all your emotional resources, often, to cope with even one of those major life events, but when they hit at or around the same time, it feels like you’ve gone to the well once too often, and now it’s dry. Hitting rock bottom feels like you will never recover, never see the sunshine, metaphorically, ever again.You will, even though it seems impossible right now. We have some suggestions for how to heal, pick up the pieces and start moving forward. Try these and you’ll find that, inch by inch, moment by moment, you’ll start feeling better and see good times just over the horizon.
1) Let yourself feel, or you can’t begin to heal. If you try to deny how dreadful you feel, or how big a loss you’ve experienced, you can’t begin to recover. Spend some time alone and take real stock of what’s happened — and why — and what you might have done differently in those moments. Notice we say differently, not better, because this is not the time for self-recrimination and blame. Be honest about your role in, for example, marital breakdown, but blaming yourself constantly is not going to help. You need to recognize your part, and then come up with ways you can avoid making the same mistakes again.
2) Press pause on life for a moment. This is part of taking the time to really examine what’s happened and how deeply hurt and upset you are because of it. If you keep up a hectic schedule that allows no time for reflection, rock bottom will go on indefinitely because you will remain emotionally bruised even when you’re out rushing around being busy.
3) Channel your energy into a creative endeavor. It’s amazing just how restorative the arts can be when you’re depressed. Take up painting, or pound some clay and make a sculpture or take up the piano or guitar. These activities get you out of your own head and refocus your attention elsewhere, and eventually, the sense of accomplishment that comes with, say, knowing how to strum your favorite song is exhilarating. You don’t have to become great at it — this is a way for you to heal the hurt in your soul, not a way for you to become a professional performer. To quote William Shakespeare, “music soothes the savage breast,” and he knew what he was talking about.
4) Get outside and explore nature. Like taking up an art form, going outside is a great way to get out of your own head. Taking long walks, going for a run or even just exploring a local park is a terrific way to expend pent up energy and restore a feeling of calm. There is a reason doctors recommend regular exercise to depressed people — it helps!
5) Talk to people who believe in you. It’s easy to be your harshest critic, so call up someone who thinks highly of you, someone you are comfortable confiding in, and tell them how you’re feeling. Chances are, they will do their best to console you, and may offer insights and experiences that can help you cope. Perhaps they’ve experienced a job loss or a marriage breakup, and have come through the other side of it healthy and whole. Don’t be afraid to be honest about how badly you feel; human connection and consolation is one of the best, most fundamental tools of recovery you have at your disposal. If you are truly feeling hopeless and that feeling persists, consider talking with a therapist. But following these guidelines can go a long way toward healing your sense of gloom, and begin lifting you out of rock bottom, and get you on your way to a better, brighter, and more productive day.
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A winner is a dreamer who never gives up.
People respond in accordance to how you treat them.
I never lose. I either win or learn.
Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.
It always seems impossible until it’s done.
When people are determined they can overcome anything.
Even if you have a terminal disease, you don’t have to sit down and mope. Enjoy life and challenge the illness that you have.
As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
What counts in life is not the mere fact that we have lived; it is what difference we have made to the lives of others that will determine the significance of the life we lead.”
Everyone can rise above their circumstances and achieve success if they are dedicated to and passionate about what they do.
There can be no greater gift than that of giving one’s time and energy to helping others without expecting anything in return.
Do not judge me by my successes, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again.
I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.
A good head and a good heart are always a formidable combination.
The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.
One of the things I learned when I was negotiating was that until I changed myself, I could not change others.
There is no passion to be found playing small in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that
we are powerful beyond measure.
As long as poverty, injustice and gross inequality persist in our world, none of us can truly rest.
I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates other.
If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart.
Part of being optimistic is keeping one’s head pointed toward the sun, one’s feet moving forward. There were many dark moments when my faith in humanity was sorely tested, but I would not and could not give myself up to despair. That way lays defeat and death.
If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your partner.
We must use time wisely and forever realize that the time is always ripe to do right.
Man’s goodness is a flame that can be hidden but never extinguished.
Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.
You can start changing our world for the better daily, no matter how small the action.
Fools multiply when wise men are silent.
The greatest glory in living is not in falling, but in rising every time we fall
While poverty persists, there is no true freedom
Lead from the back — and let others believe they are in front.
Action without vision is only passing time, vision without action is merely day dreaming, but vision with action can change the world.
Sometimes, it falls upon a generation to be great. You can be that great generation. Let your greatness blossom.
Poverty is not an accident. Like slavery and apartheid, it is man-made and can be removed by the actions of human beings.
When a man is denied the right to live the life he believes in, he has no choice but to become an outlaw.
If you want the cooperation of humans around you, you must make them feel they are important, and you do that by being genuine and humble.
Courageous people do not fear forgiving, for the sake of peace.
How To Overcome Fear & Achieve Your Dreams: Sometimes the biggest hurdle we face in trying to achieve our dreams is the one we throw in our own way: fear. Fear comes in many forms — fear of change, fear of leaving others behind, and even fear of success can impede progress and hamper goals. But dealing with fear — recognizing it and overcoming it — leads to achieving dreams, because you’re no longer hamstrung by paralyzing thoughts and dark fantasies. With a little discipline, you can harness your fears and even use them to get further along your life’s path to success and satisfaction.
The next time fear stops you in your tracks, keep these ideas in mind for coping and overcoming it:
How To Overcome Fear
1) Instead of always focusing on one, big dream (“I want my own business by the time I’m 30,) plan the small steps you can take along that route. For example, being an intern in a business that intrigues you is a great investment in your future. You get an inside peek into how the business works, but not all the responsibility for its success is on your shoulders — yet. When you’ve achieved each “smaller” dream, plan the next one!
2) Make a chart that clarifies your biggest dreams and how you’ll get there. Seeing it all down in black and white is a clarifying experience that lets you cut through the fog and focus. It’s not enough to say, “I want to be rich!” Design a chart with concrete steps that show how you plan to make that dream come true.
3) Make a five-year plan but be willing to change, if necessary. Not every step you plan will be achievable — that’s the nature of life. But if you are realistic and make detailed goals, you’ll find fear less overwhelming because you’ll be prepared. But don’t be afraid to make “carpe diem” your motto — “seize the day!” If you are too rigid because you’re afraid to fail, you’ll be paralyzed by inaction. Fear of failure really means fear of action, because there are no actions that don’t include risk. Embrace the notion of failure as a temporary setback, and there will be almost nothing to fear.
4) Have a support network on which you can rely, people who share your vision and believe in your abilities. People you can talk to when you’re afraid, who can keep the issue in perspective and offer suggestions for dealing with it. No one succeeds on their own; they rely on friends, family, business mentors and others to help navigate turbulent, scary times.
5) Be honest to yourself about your strengths and weaknesses, and always play to those strengths. For example, if you don’t like being alone, should you become a writer? Probably not. But a retail environment or other business might be perfect because you spend time with others. So be realistic, even when you’re dreaming about what you’d love to do most. No matter what you’re hoping to achieve in life, fear is bound to beset you at one point or another. Embrace it, face it, and keep it in perspective.
Prepare for fear even before you start your journey. That way, when it presents itself, you’ll have strategies in place for dealing with it. You’ll have others to turn to who will lessen your fear and help you cope. Set small goals and tick them off your list every time you achieve one. Keeping fear in perspective, and understanding that everyone experiences it sooner or later is the most important strategy for achieving your dreams.read more
How To Feel Motivated In Dark Times? It’s March, and if you’re like many people, you’ve got your own version of the winter blues. It can be tough at this time of year to feel invigorated and happy, particularly if you’ve let slide those New Year’s resolutions you made. Don’t be too hard on yourself; there are several key strategies you can employ to help you feel up and motivated, even during dark times. And the middle of winter certainly qualifies!
How to feel energetic and motivated in dark times
1) Stick To Your Usual Routine: It’s tempting when you’re down to take the day off work and lie in bed binging on Netflix and eating ice cream. But if you want to shake the blues, that’s the last thing you should do. ((If you’re sick, that’s different — binge away!) Set your alarm for the usual time, get up and have a proper breakfast. Don’t rush out the door after gulping a coffee or you’ll only feel worse. Walk to work if you can, because a little extra exercise is just the ticket for shedding that bloated, depressed feeling that can hang around after the holidays.
2) Speaking Of Exercise: One of the best ways to recharge and get motivated to tackle the challenges ahead is by getting some extra exercise. If you do a workout twice a week, try making it three or four until your mood starts to lift. Science has proven the benefits of exercise are mental as well as physical, so even getting out for a 20-minute walk can help you feel better psychologically.
3) Treat Yourself Well: There are a few tactics you can employ to remind yourself that you deserve care and attention. First, consider a massage, or a manicure, pedicure, or both! Even a new hairstyle can boost mood and make you feel ready to face difficulties. People have a tendency to let their appearance slide if they are in a dark mental space, but it’s the last thing you should do. Feeling good about how you look on the inside definitely makes it easier to feel good on the inside; it increases confidence, and people respond to confidence.
4) Write Down Your Accomplishments: It’s helpful when you’re trying to get motivated to remind yourself of all you’ve done thus far on your path to success and fulfillment. Spend some time really focusing on those achievements, don’t dismiss or ignore how much you’ve done so far. When people are feeling blue, they often get into a cycle of despair and negativity, so thinking about all you’ve done that’s positive can really help. There’s nothing wrong with the occasional pat on your own back!
Depending on the type of person you are and the job you do, there are other techniques for weathering dark times available to you as well. For some, watching a funny film helps restore their sense of humor and keep things in perspective. For others, talking things through with a friend or even a professional therapist is the right course of action.
What matters most is that you remember that dark times are always temporary, and they will pass eventually. But you can speed that process up by refusing to sit by idly, and instead get out for a walk, have a new adventure, socialize with family and friends and, by all means, remember to laugh. Not only at a movie or TV show; laugh at yourself, too. It’s an almost instant cure for the blues, and before you know it you’ll be motivated to get moving and get on with being the real success you’re destined to be.read more