Stress is an inevitable fact in life, but when that stress is coupled with severe anxiety, it can be almost too much to take. A lot of our daily stresses and anxieties can be linked to our routines. People with specific routines can feel more or less stress and here are some effective routines that you can use to reduce stress and anxiety in your own life to help you get more out of living without increasing stressful situations.
Exercise Will Almost Certainly Help
Sometimes, it is necessary to shake up your usual routine to include something new. Exercise is often neglected in our daily lives. It is a common misconception that simply walking around at your job or during your daily schedule is enough to get adequate exercise. Your usual routine likely does not provide adequate exercise for what your body needs and adding in a little exercise each day will help you reduce stress and anxiety. Exercise is a natural way to release endorphins that promote that good feeling we crave. Exercise increases the human libido as well, so when you exercise, your body will crave more physical pleasures and sex is a great way to reduce and relieve stress as well, at least for a short while.
Emphasize How You Breathe
Breathing is natural but is often neglected in our daily life. Generally, it is thought that as long as you are breathing, things are ok, but breathing correctly can have a vastly positive effect on your well-being. Breathing brings oxygen into the brain and throughout the body. Normal breathing can sometimes become shallow and ill-effective but making an effort to take deeper breaths at certain times can help your mind work better. When you begin to feel stressed or that anxiety is creeping up on you, take 10 very deep breaths. It will open up your mind a little more, so you can think your way through problems better. Doing this on a daily basis will allow you to refocus attention and help relieve more anxiety and stress.
A Morning Routine That Works
My parents have been married for well over 40 years. Their lives have not been perfect by any means, but one thing they have always emphasized is getting up early and spending quality time together before heading out for their day. They start each morning at 4 am. Mom brews coffee, they sit together at the table and talk, both do their bible studies during the morning. Now 4 am might seem way too early for most people, but it is what has worked for my parents at least.
It is very important that you find what time works best for you in the morning. Some people can get up early with no problem, while others prefer to sleep as late as possible. The problem with giving yourself just enough time to get out of the house and begin your day, is that you always feel like you are rushing around throughout the day. Getting up, even 15 minutes early, sitting down and having time for yourself or your partner will start your day off right. It gives you time to focus your attention on what is to be done during your busy day while providing quality time with the one you love. It is a win win, so find a time that works for you and stick to it.
Turn Off Technology
Technology is everywhere these days. From the moment we rise in the morning, we use technology in our kitchen preparing breakfast, with our children preparing them for school, in our cars on the way to work, and even at work. When we arrive home after work, we use technology to relax and basically veg out. However, too much technology can be a bad thing and even if you think you are using your devices to relax, you are being trapped by them.
The human mind is a remarkable supercomputer that takes in information like a sponge. We absorb information throughout the day without giving our brain a break from glowing screens, pictures and videos of friends, and so much more. At night, these images can even impact our sleeping patterns bringing on even more anxiety and stress throughout the day. The key here is not to completely absolve yourself of technology, but to provide your body with a break at night at least one hour before bed. Read a book or have a conversation with your family. Turn off the devices for an hour before bed and you will find a more restful night sleep with a renewed self in the morning.
Stress and anxiety are going to happen from time to time, but reducing the amount of stress you have to endure will lead to a higher quality of life. Take control of your mornings, exercise routine, and sleep routines, and enjoy life more without foreboding stress and anxiety looming over your existence.read more
That eternal conundrum. Will I ever find my soulmate? The right life partner for one person is not necessarily compatible with someone else because we are all such singular individuals. Human adults all express that urge to search for a suitable partner, it is a biological imperative, but because we are such complex creatures it can be hard to find the right one.
It would seem logical that in a busy cosmopolitan society where we spend almost all day in an environment saturated with members of the opposite sex, many of whom are also looking for a partner, that settling on a mate would be relatively easy. Well, it would be if we weren’t all so picky.
After all, settling on a life partner is a big investment. There is a lot at stake so it’s not something to rush into. There are sacrifices and economic consequences arising when two people pool their lives and begin to share a future. Then we may have to weigh up (consciously or subconsciously) the suitability of the other person as a potential parent. Do they have the right genes to pass on? Will they be a good provider? Will they be a loving parent and a good role model for the consequent offspring?
So, what constitutes a soulmate? Ideally, this is a person who is suited to you in temperament and generally has the same worldly outlook and beliefs. Similar attitudes, similar values and similar ideologies are powerful factors that can dictate your suitability for each other and the promise of a positive, harmonious and synergistic future together. If two people experience a soul connection when they meet, they experience an easy connection immediately. They just know.
So, what are some of the signs that you have met the right one for you?You bond immediately over so many things
You have an intense feeling that this bond is ‘right’
There is mutual respect
You have the same values and moral stances
You can just be yourself
You’re totally comfortable in their presence, no need for pretense or best behavior
You have similar goals or vision for the future
You don’t have an urge to ‘change’ them
You accept their funny little habits
When the first flush of passion fades, deep down, you are best friends
Of course, all relationships need working on, nurturing, lest they grow stale over time but soul mates don’t lose sight of that. They regularly reconfirm their bond as the relationship matures. There may be differences in your goals, maybe academically or in career choices, but soul mates support their partner, challenge them to aspire further, and celebrate the wins.
So, how do you find the right partner? First, it is important to understand basically what characteristics you are looking for. Then you have to put yourself out there, open to making connections. Perhaps on a match-making site, or at your place of work. An excellent way to meet people who like the same kind of things you do and who have a similar vision is to join social groups, like a sporting club, a conservation movement or a hobby group with plenty of avid members. Join a choir or drama group, start volunteering to help disadvantaged people, join a bible group or a political movement. Actively follow whatever is your passion, or explore new interests, and you will meet like-minded people there.
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No matter who you are or how long you have been employed, you have likely had to contend with at least one toxic coworker. These are the people that seem to drain the very life out of you on-site or those that use contention in the office as a way to fuel their own sick desire for turmoil. The more positivity you bring to the room, the more negative comments you may receive from a toxic coworker, but there are not always clear signs this person is one to be avoided, and once identified, how do you actually set boundaries? Here are 3 ways to identify those employees and set the healthy boundaries your mental health requires.
We have all had our relationship with gossip. It is fun, in the beginning, but gossip is one of the easiest ways to ruin a reputation or completely tear down another coworker. There is really no such thing as healthy gossip. It is all generally a bad idea. Look around your work place. Do you notice one or more people that seem to know more gossip about everyone, but lacks actual knowledge of anything else? This person is the gossip and should be avoided whenever possible.
A gossip will, at first spread supposed factual information to get everyone hooked on their stories. Then they will begin to embellish certain details until the facts fade away into outright lies. Make no mistake about it, if they are talking about everyone else in the office to you, they are talking about you to everyone else.
It is very unlikely you will completely shut down the gossip altogether, but ways to avoid that person and set healthy boundaries is to let them know you do not want to hear the gossip. Every time they start up with a new rumor, simply excuse yourself from the conversation or ask if they have spoken to the manager or higher ups about what is going on. You can also use phrases such as, “This sounds like nothing more than a rumor.” That lets the gossiper know you are on to them and they are more likely to avoid you without you having to do too much to avoid them
Major Victim Syndrome
Playing the victim is a way many people get attention. Nothing is ever their fault and they are always wronged in some manner. These people will talk negatively about their work environment, bosses, and other employees. If an issue arises, they will always attempt to cast blame on another person without ever taking responsibility for their own actions. When a coworker plays the victim, they seem to have an inability to say, “Oops, my mistake.” The phrase, “Well, (insert name) told me to do it,” is very common. They will essentially, throw everyone else under the bus just to avoid someone knowing they made a mistake. Often, these people will blame new employees for their mistakes.
Avoiding the victim is not easy. They will always be there and as incidents arise, tell HR about the facts you see. Ensure they are actual facts and not rumors or gossip and have clear examples of their behavior. The other part of contending with this employee will have to come from within. Practice meditation to help you deal with situations with a clearer mind and surround yourself with those you feel comfortable with at work. Avoid this individual whenever possible and never take the blame for what they have done.
The Passive Aggressive Coworker
Passive aggressive people are difficult to deal with, but we see them in both our professional environment, as well as our personal lives. These people seem to thrive on making others look bad and pointing out flaws of coworkers. They also do it in a way that is underhanded and sneaky. Passive aggressive coworkers blame others, reject feedback, never look at another’s perspective on anything, make excuses, have an obviously cynical personality, and can have a seniority complex. They exhibit sarcasm and disguise insults within conversation. These people are also known to use the silent treatment to deal with situations.
In order to contend with the passive aggressive coworker, you must create a cocoon of positivity around yourself. A passive aggressive person thrives off the reaction of their victims and when you are continually positive, the toxic party will lose steam and often leave you alone. Look for the positive in every situation and be sure to point it out to that person. Motivate yourself with past accomplishments and even write yourself positive notes to reflect on throughout the day.
No work environment is completely devoid of negativity, but limiting a negative person’s hold on you is the first step in overcoming a toxic coworker. Positivity has a unique effect on a negative person. Where they may think they have power, a positive word in a toxic person’s direction can diffuse them without them even knowing it. Keep things positive and light at work and never allow another person to have a negative hold on you. Toxicity can be extinguished with positive thinking and conscientious actions.read more
Life is stressful. There is no mistaking this fact. If it were not enough to be stressed about everyday life, work, children, social engagements, and other factors of our existence, we now must contend with COVID-19 and the additional stresses that it brings on. The world around you is getting more and more stressful and now is the time to take things into your own hands and find ways to make your individual life less stressful and less anxiety filled while increasing your own wellbeing. If you are struggling to make it all happen, here are some ways you can do it.
Maybe this was not exactly the word you were hoping to see in this article, but exercise is an amazing stress reliever. Getting regular exercise for at least 30 minutes 3 times per week has proven to lower stress hormones in our body while allowing for more restful sleep, and improving self confidence. Exercise offers a trifecta of what your body, mind, and even your soul needs to get more out of life. It can be difficult to start exercising, but if you can manage to walk some every day, find a workout routine online you enjoy, or even get involved with a local gym, you will see your entire life begin to improve while stress begins to melt away.
Limit Exposure to News
The news is meant to inform and some news avenues seem to do a great job at providing the news we need to remain informed, but too much information, in this instance, can have a negative effect. When you are overexposed to everything that is going on in the world, you can become stressed at your inability to control things. We have all seen stories on disasters while watching helplessly from our homes. It can be heartbreaking and knowing that these things can happen at any moment can bring on anxiety and stress you really do not need. Remain informed, but set limits on how much news you take in.
Limit Caffeine Intake
We all like a little jolt of caffeine every so often, but again, too much can be a bad thing. Caffeine has been proven to intensify anxiety symptoms and cause your heart to pump faster. Where this action is fine on occasion, too much caffeine can cause your body to simply overwork. Overworking your organs for too long can have a very negative effect on your overall health leading to even more anxiety and stress. Limit your caffeine intake and see how much better you feel overall.
Write Things Down
Anxiety and stress come in many forms and too much of it can weigh heavily on our ability to live a quality life. A great tactic to help is to write things down. No matter how old or young you are, stresses of daily life can cause you to forget to buy things from the store, appointments, or a myriad of other things you need to get done. Take some time each morning and write it all down. Writing out a schedule for yourself takes a few moments out of your day, but it helps tremendously to know you do not have to keep it all in your head. Additionally, journaling at the end of your day can help you unload your mind before heading to bed. Your mind can empty out leading to a more restful night of sleep.
Enjoy Time with Friends
Finding times to enjoy with friends can be a chore. Especially during these confusing times where social events are drastically reduced or cancelled, but it is important to find time with those you enjoy spending time with. Even though you may not be able to go out to eat in a larger group like you once did, try doing something outdoors. Pack a lunch and head out for a hike with a few friends or start a daily outdoor walk with a few people. The possibilities are not as limited as they might seem. Even if you cannot physically go out and do things, you can spend time in your own home interacting with friends online or try having a movie night with friends with the help of technology. Many streaming services offer watch party options that can help bring people closer together.
Stress and anxiety can happen at any time and to any person, but reducing those stresses and things that bring on anxiety will help your overall wellbeing. There is no one way to completely eliminate stress, but there are many ways to help reduce it. Getting involved with friends for activities, exercise, and turning off the news a little more can have drastic positive effects on your overall life. You are in control over your life and the stresses within, so take them on and work to reduce them one by one. You can do it!read more
This title might actually scare you a little, but don’t worry, you do not have to be super human to get all of this accomplished. We see people that seem to have it all. The money, awesome bodies, amazing relationships, and have their lives truly in order. How do they do it? How do they keep everything together long enough to get it all done? The answer is, they did not do everything at once. We will take each one of these entities on individually so you can see how it can all be brought together in your own life.
Work to Be Healthier
It can be difficult to be truly happy with your life when you are out of shape. Although we are not speaking of mere vanity, eating right and exercising can have a severely positive effect on your mind and body as well. In order to begin to take control of your life, you must first learn to control your own body and your urges.
We all love a good calorie filled meal from time to time. Filling ourselves with foods we love can make us feel great in the short term, but the effects never last. Changing habits you have in regard to food is the best way to begin reshaping your life. Include more healthy options than unhealthy ones by finding food you can enjoy that will not make you regret your decisions. Invest in fresh fruits and vegetables while reducing your intake of carbs. Choose lean proteins such as chicken, turkey, and fish, as opposed to a big juicy steak or pork chops. Change happens through seemingly insignificant changes over the course of your life.
As for exercise, start slowly. Taking on an intensive exercise routine too fast can lead to burnout. Start by walking a little more each day, starting a once per week fitness class, or playing sports with your kids outside more. Slowly build your exercise routine from there.
Creating High Quality Relationships
When people say relationship, they often think of the romantic variety, but you have to remember, the best romantic relationships start out as friendships. Focus on finding friends that enjoy the same activities you do. Attend gatherings of like minded people. Join a hiking club, religious organization, or social events that meet your specific desires of what you want to accomplish in life. Invest in friends that build you up without dragging you down. Friends with negative habits should be avoided and distancing yourself from these people is essential for your overall happiness.
Once you have found what you love and have invested time with friends that love the same things, you will find the friendships made there are worthy of your affections. You can find a deeper relationship with someone who likes the same activities as you do as opposed to someone you are just physically attracted to. The deepest relationships have intimacy on all levels, not just the physical and it all starts with a deep rooted friendship.
This aspect is at the bottom of the list, because it is ultimately, the least important. Although everyone seems to claim money is the most important thing, it is essential that you work on yourself and your relationship with others before making significant money. People are far more important than monetary gain, but once you have established relationships with others and invested in your own wellbeing, making money can be your next step.
Take some time to examine those that already have money and see what they did to get it. What you will find, is that each of these wealthy individuals, unless they were already heir to a fortune, started out by solving a problem. Some have gained wealth by creating an essential app or computer program. Others have created accessories. Still, there are some that create never before seen inventions. The point is to find a problem and solve it.
There Are More Paths to Wealth
Solving a problem for humanity and making a product to sell is considered the big dream and it can happen for some if they are willing to invest the time and attention into marketing their idea and it is truly unique. However, there are other ways to make money without having a product. Many have invested in stocks to help bring about wealth. This option is for those who are analytically minded and understand stocks that will take off. Investing in stocks can be risky and the best way to do it is to be versatile in your investments. Never invest all your savings in one stock.
When evaluating your life, do not compare it to others. There are some that seem to have it all, but no one is perfect. Always keep that in mind. Even the wealthiest and seemingly most successful people have a few flaws. Your life is important and it is time to take hold of it, so invest in getting into shape while eating better, find friends that meet your personality, and then take time to make some money.read more
Why do so many marriages fail to bring happiness? After all, we are taught from a very young age that if we meet someone special and overcome all the obstacles put in our way to keep us apart, we will find everlasting happiness. Isn’t this the premise of all those novels and movies? The handsome prince, knight, unlikely hero rescues the beautiful, helpless, nubile ingenue and carries her away from her unsatisfactory plight, to enjoy lasting happiness. Cinderella finally wins her prince and they live happily ever after.
Have you noticed that those stories always end at the engagement or wedding and they finish with a vague promise that only happiness and fulfillment lie ahead for these two? “And they lived happily ever after”. Did they?
So, if this is the story society imprints on our youngsters, how can they realistically deal with the challenges and demands of modern marriage?
Teens have been raised with unrealistic expectations of marriage and the specialness of the person they will marry. Inevitably, those high expectations aren’t met. As the tedious grind of making a living, paying the bills and getting on with everyday life start to dawn, the illusion of eternal happiness begins to dull. Resentment and disappointment soon replace the joy and roses they felt they were entitled to. Some deal with this and take it in their stride, some even make the best of it, but many eventually walk away.
Picture a young woman leaving her girlhood behind. She has been conditioned to believe someone very special will court her. A knight, a capable breadwinner, a wonderful loving father, an adoring, supportive husband and an exciting lover. Now, these princes are few on the ground but that doesn’t stop her from dreaming that it will happen to her. So, she paints her current partner with that brush. She holds him up as a knight in shining armor who will deliver all the happiness she deserves. Only, she eventually realizes that he’s just an ordinary bloke, a goofy guy, warts and all, who falls short of all the redeeming qualities she has imbued him with.
After the first heady flush of lust and playing house wears off, maybe two years later, the illusion has been shattered. She starts noticing his faults and bad habits, she wants him to have more backbone, stop playing video games, do something with his life, and improve their economic outlook. She realizes that he’s not a good earner and he has no ambition or ability to become one. Furthermore, he resents her nagging and spends as much time with his mates as he can to get away from her sharp tongue and the constant reminder that he’s a useless, lazy slob.
Now, picture a young man who has won his princess. She looks lovely at their wedding but he’s got her now and he no longer has to be on his best behavior, he can relax and be himself. He has been looking for someone to mother him. She will cook and clean up after him like women are supposed to. She will look out for his daily comforts, organize him and also be a vamp in the bedroom at night.
He is surprized at first when things don’t turn out as he imagined. Three small children appear in quick succession and she no longer looks after herself, she lets herself go. She’s tired and crabby all the time and you can forget about any benefits in the bedroom after a day of running the household, looking after him and three kids, and going to work before coming home to cook dinner and do the housework. Worse still, she has her own opinions and is not scared of saying so. She nags him to help around the house and get a better job, and then she still wants to be wooed and courted with flowers and compliments from time to time.
She has changed from the playful, pretty girl he courted; which seems like a lifetime ago. Now she’s just somebody’s frumpy mother.
Some couples make the reality of marriage and daily life work, but many soldier on, unhappy with how things turned out. The secret to a good marriage? Face the realities, look for the positives, support each other and build a lasting friendship.read more
We all have those moments when we wonder whether or not we are going to make it, are we on the right track, have we done the right thing? This is essentially human and could be turned into a force for good if we harness it correctly. We are talking about self-doubt.
Sooner or later we are all going to be confronted with some degree of self-doubt over a stance we have taken, something we said, or actions we have put in motion. Was it the right thing to do? Doubting yourself can be self-destructive. The worst enemy of getting ahead in life is self-doubt. It will hold you back and make you lose good opportunities that you should otherwise have embraced. It can also adversely affect your ability to build rewarding social relationships.
Anyone who claims they don’t experience moments of self-doubt is surely fooling themselves. Some people have very confident personalities and may not often concede that they have concerns about themselves. On the other hand, people who are timid and lack self-confidence may doubt themselves a lot more often.
So, in part, the degree of self-doubt you experience in your life can be a personality trait. Alternatively, it may be a result of your environment. If people are constantly put down and belittled, either by an overbearing partner or perhaps at work, they may begin to doubt themselves and their validity, more and more.
Ask yourself why? Once you understand where your self-doubt comes from and why it affects you the way it does, you are already on the path to overcoming this state of mind. So, go ahead, ask those searching questions, dig deep and gain a better understanding of why you are letting self-doubt affect your mental wellbeing and diminish your self-image.
Next, you need to actively develop a positive response and set up steps to overcome your lack of self-assurance and your insecurities.
Stop comparing yourself to others, celebrate the fact that you’re different.
Overcome your fear of failure
Start to believe in yourself
Rely on your own innate wisdom and your instincts to guide you
Don’t dwell on mistakes of the past, just learn from them and move on
Don’t fear the risk of failure, instead, fear the absence of progress
If you are feeling negative, tell yourself to get over it and move on
Don’t worry that people might judge your performance harshly, just do your best and be proud of yourself
Write down a Pros and Cons list when conflicting over a good opportunity that has come your way. If you go for the opportunity, what is the worst that could happen? What is the best that could happen? Rein in your self-doubt by logically exploring the best and worst scenarios to discover that in fact, often there is more in the gains column than there is in the loss column.
Confide in a friend or someone you love. Tell them your doubts and fears and get some dispassionate feedback. Talking about it and gaining new insight from someone else’s perspective can be invaluable.
Turn your negative thoughts and insecurities into something positive. Go to seminars and workshops on how to harness positive thoughts and optimism to power you forward into a more successful life. Learn how to dispel negativity and focus on the positive.
Use failures and setbacks as lessons to guide you on how to avoid the same mistakes. This is how we all gain experience and become more successful in the future.
When you have achieved a milestone that you wanted, make sure you celebrate your success. This will boost your motivation to grasp other challenges and it will improve your confidence.
When you have learned to embrace your own strengths and good qualities your insecurities and self-doubt are able to fade into the background.
None of us are perfect, so you are not alone. When you start to recognize your better qualities and learn to love yourself despite a few imperfections, you are on the path to a more positive and more fulfilling life.read more
Human relationships are complex and actually need nurturing. Your relationships with other family members and even with your friends can suffer if you don’t make an effort to maintain them. After all, who likes to be ignored and taken for granted all the time?
One of the most important aspects of friendships and family relationships is communication. This doesn’t mean you just have to talk to each other to remain in touch, it is a whole lot more than that. Talking is just one form of communicating, and it needs to be genuine discussion and conversation where each person really listens to what the other is saying and feeling.
Communication belongs not just to the realm of speech, but also to the sharing of feelings and emotions. When people want to strengthen their relationship with a loved one or friend, they can initiate conversation and share their thoughts and feelings. Talking with such authenticity can reach a much deeper level of contact than just mere chatting.
When a couple truly communicate, they gain greater empathy with the needs of their partner and strengthen the bonds of their relationship. The same can be true of friendships, which flourish better when people really care about each other and can communicate a genuine depth of feeling.
One of the ways we can maintain a strong connection with friends and loved ones whom you may not see every day is simply to keep in touch. Pick up the phone and give them a call. It only takes minutes for them to learn that you are thinking about them. Friends and family members are always happy to hear from the people they care about.
Relationships are like gardens, if you tend them and water them regularly, they will flourish. But if you neglect them for long periods of time they will wilt and fade.
One powerful key to developing good communication with your partner is to really listen. Put aside your own viewpoints and carefully listen to theirs. We are all different and the people you love will see things differently from you and given a chance will express themselves differently. You need to show tolerance, embrace other people’s viewpoints, and show acceptance of these differences.
It is important not only to recognize the value of your relationships but to show your loved ones that you care. It sounds so simple but it can take just the smallest gesture to show your partner or your friend that they matter to you. Try to remind yourself to practice random acts of sensitivity towards your partner to show them the appreciation you have for them and their love. Come home with roses one day, for no special occasion. Finish off that DIY job you didn’t finish a while ago that’s really been annoying your partner. Do a chore for them that they hate doing, just to show them how much you care.
When I was a child, I visited a friend of mine after school. She selected only the smallest potatoes out of a big bag in the pantry and started peeling them while we talked. I asked her why she just picked the little ones and she replied, “My Mom really hates peeling the little ones so I’m getting those ones ready for dinner tonight. That way she doesn’t have to do them when she gets home from work.”
That small act of kindness has stayed in my mind ever since. It shows a depth of love that tells your relative or spouse how much you appreciate them and yet it doesn’t take much effort to do.
Another way we can show how much we care for one another and strengthen our bonds is to provide encouragement for the other person’s dreams and goals. It means a lot to your family and your friends if you support them in their ambitions and give recognition to their accomplishments.
And of course, one of the strongest ways to keep your marriage or a treasured friendship healthy is to always try to avoid and deflect arguments. Fighting and arguing never reinforces strong bonds, it just tears away at the edges of the fabric of the relationship until it is finally destroyed.
Even if there have been disagreements during the day, make a determination to always finish each day in good spirits by making up and reaffirming your love for each other.read more
Five Key Techniques For Coping With Bad Times
Sometimes it feels like the universe has given us everything we’ve ever asked for. But other times we get so down and exhausted by the hurdles thrown at us we feel like crawling into bed and pulling the covers over our heads.
It may sound trite, but there’s no escaping adversity — everyone, sooner or later, has to face it. The secret is how some people cope with seemingly endless difficulties — illness, the death of a loved one, job loss or divorce — or all four — and somehow get through it and end up smiling. How do they do it, you ask? We’re here to offer a few tips for coping with the profound trouble’s life tosses your way. Next time, think of these suggestions and you’ll see your way out of adversity more easily.
1) Remember That Everything Passes: Even the worst. It may sound like cold comfort, but the worst issue you face will, in fact and eventually, pass. You’ve lost your job — you will get another, and in the meantime make economic adjustments at home. No matter how much adversity tries to knock you down, once you really understand the problem, get on with the business of finding solutions. And don’t forget: ask for help when you need it.
2) Discover Your Sense of Humour: Finding reasons to laugh, even simple ones, puts a smile on everyone’s face. Watch cat videos online. Spend time with a special friend who makes you laugh. There may be no humor to find in the problem you’re facing, but there is humor in life. Distract yourself even temporarily by laughing, and you’ll feel better instantly.
3) Take Inventory Of Where You Are: By that we mean you need to take stock of your life, of your strengths, weaknesses, talents and other qualities. Adversity gives you the chance to employ your life skills, and develop them further. When we think about problems in the abstract, we imagine we would never be able to deal with them: a breakup, perhaps, or the death of a favourite pet. But then it happens, and somehow, you cope. Maybe not well at first, but eventually you figure out how to live, and live well, in spite of what’s happened. And that helps brace you for the next hurdle.
4) Seize The Chance For Change: Okay, so your partner dumped you. It’s tough, but no matter how long you two were together, your new status presents the opportunity to embrace change. Think of all that’s available to you in your new circumstances, and go for it. Do some silly things, like get a new haircut or take up a hobby — anything you couldn’t do as part of a couple. Just don’t sit at home stewing.
5) Never, Ever Give Up: Especially on yourself. Adversity comes to everyone, so understand it’s not something you did, or asked for, or are to blame for. Think of all your qualities that people love, and have helped you get where are today.
Every successful person on the planet has faced adversity — try reading about Oprah’s childhood, then think of all she’s overcome. Or Walt Disney. Did you know he was let go from a job early in his career for lack of creativity? Can you imagine!?
Our point is that adversity comes to us all. Now it’s time to handle it, and get on with the business of living your most fabulous life. You can do it!read more
We all know how fussy kids can be where food is involved, especially small children. Children often refuse food that is spicy or well-seasoned and avoid anything new or different. Why do children have picky eating habits? There are a few factors we can consider:
Children don’t like the texture of the food
They don’t like the way the food looks, it looks unappetizing
Unlike adults, they are quick to reject foods with bitter and sour flavors
They can’t process spicy or ‘hot’ food
They avoid food high in fiber
They may be ‘pre-wired’ to seek out only ‘energy-rich’ foods for their active and growing bodies
Whatever the reason, this pickiness causes a family dilemma. You have to either let them miss out while you and your partner tuck into the tasty meal, or prepare two complete menus each mealtime, one for the adults and something blander, for the kids.
Yet, opting for the different menus adds a lot of extra work to planning and preparing a family meal. This is especially true if you get home from work at the end of the day and then have to start cooking. You don’t have the time or the patience for messing around.
On the other hand, couples who don’t have children have the luxury of eating whatever adventurous foods they like.
Adults have a more mature palate than kids and so childless couples can indulge in interesting meals like spicy foods and interesting curries. They can try new cuisines from culturally diverse regions and if the food agrees with them, then their experimenting has paid off and they have widened their food horizons.
Foods for couples without children can include the full spectrum of seafood. Try getting an oyster into a small kid! Adults also have the teeth and the palate to enjoy steaks and other red meats which need a bit of chewing and are quite textured. Adults can also enjoy meals that contain vegetables like cabbages, brussels sprouts and root vegetables.
Other foods that adults can regularly enjoy and experiment with are pickled vegetables, relishes and chutneys which a child is certainly likely to spurn. Food suitable for adults can range from delicate offal like chicken liver, smoked foods like smoked fish or eel, and then there is the spicy cuisine of Caribbean countries like Jamaica and of course Asia and India. Even the southern states of America have their distinctive Cajun food.
One extremely popular Korean food is Kimchi, which is certainly an acquired taste. It is smelly and fermented, with its own strange texture, it is low in fat and high in fiber but full of flavor and very nutritious. It is basically a spicy, aromatic Korean type of sauerkraut. The longer it is left to ferment the stronger the flavor and the nutrient levels become. This is an exciting food for adults to experiment with, but needless to say, kids probably won’t touch it.
An Easy, fast Mak Kimchi Recipe
Equipment: a knife and cutting board and a big bowl.
Ingredients: One or two Napa cabbages, some carrots and any other vegetables you want
Method: Chop the cabbages into bite-sized squares and add to the bowl
Add the julienned carrots to the bowl, mix and sprinkle with salt. Toss the contents then pour cold water in to just cover the vegetables. Stir and leave to rest at room temperature for maybe a couple of hours. Then pour off the salty water.
Blend garlic and ginger, fish sauce, unsweetened apple or pear juice, scallions, miso paste and Korean Red Pepper powder in the food processor until it is a paste. Add this mixture to the bowl and mix with the vegetables.
Ladle the Kimchi into glass jars or plastic containers and pack it in tightly. Gently place the lid on the jar and don’t screw it down tight because the recipe ferments. Let the jars stand in a baking tray or similar at room temperature for a couple of days. Stick in a knife each day to release any air bubbles and top up with brine water if it gets low. After a few days, it is ready to eat so store it in the refrigerator. Kimchi is a brilliant food to add to all your meals to add spice, aroma, and flavor, or even eat it on its own.read more