If you are having suicidal thoughts, your situation may feel overwhelming, with no end in sight. It is important to realize that you are not alone, many others have felt similar pain and the same desperation. Yet, there are ways to deal with suicidal feelings and there are people who want to help.
There are well-trodden paths to lead you out of the depths of your despair and on, to new possibilities and a brighter future. So, reach out to people who have been where you are now and have found their way past the pain and the hopelessness. You don’t need to suffer all alone, in silence.
With the right support, and given time, you can overcome your problems and leave the pain and suicidal thoughts behind. Think of the people who care about you, and how you could make a difference to someone else. Think of good times in your past where life was worth living. Unleash the inner courage we all have inside us and get yourself back to those good times.
To find your strength to face life again, embrace these thoughts:
How you feel now will definitely change as time passes, give it a chance
What you are experiencing now could change tomorrow or next week
If you leave us, your friends and loved ones would suffer unnecessary grief and loss
There are so many wonderful experiences you will miss, that you deserve
There is so much you could achieve as your life matures
You have so much to give to others less fortunate than you
There are many reasons why people suffer deep emotional pain which can lead to thoughts of suicide. It can be hard to see real solutions to your problems, and you may resist connecting with people who can help. Like other people who have been there too, you can recover and move on. Don’t be afraid to seek help through therapy, medication and support, to improve your situation and don’t give up before you’ve found the solution that suits you best.
To overcome suicidal thoughts and feelings, follow these steps:
Make a firm resolve to wait a little longer before doing anything drastic
Don’t make things worse by turning to alcohol or drugs. Your thoughts may take on exaggerated proportions and your problems seem much larger than they really are
Get rid of anything that could do you harm, like weapons or medications, or go somewhere safe where these types of things are not easily accessible or in plain view
Seek help. Share your thoughts and feelings with someone you care about or talk to someone you trust like a doctor or clergy, or teacher or coach.
People do survive such awful feelings of despair or depression, so there is plenty of hope for you, too. Give it time and don’t keep your problems to yourself, seek help and support.
Talking about your suicidal thoughts and your difficulty coping can be hard to do. But just decide to set aside your embarrassment or feelings of guilt and talk to someone who will truly listen and won’t judge you.
Tell them you are having thoughts of suicide and explain why you have come to this desperate state of mind. You could even jot it down in notes if you find talking too difficult at first. If your friends aren’t nearby, you could call a crisis helpline for immediate help.
While you may be feeling suicidal at the present, this isn’t permanent, you will feel better again over time. Give yourself the gift of life by working through your despair and chipping away at it until you see the brighter future that is just waiting for you to grasp it. Be sure to:
Talk to someone you trust, or a crisis helpline, every day.
Avoid isolation. Spend time with people you like and who care about you, as often as possible. This is reconnecting with the everyday world.
Draw up a safety plan, devise positive steps to take when things get really desperate; who to call; reassuring actions that will divert your anxiety.
Don’t do sad things, go for a walk instead and take in the beauty of a sunny day and the wonder of nature
Stick to a regular exercise routine or workout, which will help make you feel good and stimulate positive thoughts
Find the little things that bring you pleasure and joy, and embrace these things
Develop personal goals with little, achievable steps that will get you there as you persevere. Write down your goals and work out what action needs to be taken to achieve them. This will give you something concrete and positive to focus on, looking ahead to better times.
Take on a new hobby, sport or interest. Join a church choir or do some community volunteering which will make you feel good while at the same time helping others less fortunate than you.
The healing process will help you deal with stress and anxiety, and overcome your feelings of despair and suicidal thoughts. Focus on the good things in life, your new interests, your renewed faith in your ability to cope. Keep building your support network and surround yourself with positive people and worthwhile activities to help keep you on track and on the road to recovery.