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How To Be Motivated Every Day.
If you are like me, you must be having those days you call ‘bad days. Mondays have always been the victim of being a bad day. These are those days that you don’t even feel like waking up. And when you do, you don’t feel motivated to do anything, regardless of how important it is.
When this happens, you will probably end up procrastinating a lot, and sometimes you will hate everything or everyone around you. Many things can lead to being demotivated, these include; When you lose someone, or something you loved, e.g., job, divorce, death, etc.
Too much on your to-do list
Fear of failure
Self-doubt
Lack of self-confidence
Poor time management
Burnout from jobs
Easy Ways to Be Motivated and Stay Motivated Every Day
The first step in solving any problem is to understand the root cause of the problem. The issues above are just but a few of the things that may demotivate you. It is essential to understand the root cause of your lack of motivation so that you don’t address the symptoms rather than the problem itself.
Once you know what is bringing you down, you can adequately find solutions. But don’t beat yourself so much when this happens. It is very ok to have some down days. We cannot function the same for all 365 days in a year. Some days we will feel low. How you deal with such days will determine how successful you become.
Here are some simple steps you can take to stay motivated every single day permanently:
1. Practice Positive Affirmation
Motivation is hugely determined by how we feel inside. It is the manifestation of how we think about ourselves. When you doubt your abilities or have little or no self-confidence in your abilities, you will most likely feel demotivated to handle your daily tasks.
Therefore, you should practice saying positive things to yourself. A simple daily mantra can help you get your motivation to handle tasks. For example, you can tell yourself, “I can do it.” When you say this repeatedly, you will automatically be optimistic about your abilities to handle the day’s activities.
2. Take Some Time Off
Burnout can kill your motivation. If you want to stay motivated for the entire day, you need to take some health breaks from your core activities. This will help your body and mind to re-charge. When you work for so long on a task, your productivity will reduce. This will compromise the quality of your output.
It is vital to take some time off and meditate alone. For your peace of mind, you can take a few minute’s walks in the forest or a quiet place. This connection with nature will revitalize your mind and help you stay motivated to handle what is thrown at you during the day.
3. Avoid Perfectionism
Perfectionism is the number one killer of motivation and the lead cause of procrastination and failure to tackle our daily tasks. We often put things to another day when we feel motivated to do it. This is a bad move because you may never feel motivated enough to do it.
Especially when you are doing what you don’t love, here, you should stop thinking of delivering a perfect job, but just do what you can do within the shortest time possible and get feedback on it. That will motivate you to work on your next tasks.
4. Divide Your Activities into Smaller Achievable Sub-tasks
How long is your to-do list? If it is longer than one A6 size page, then that is the source of your demotivation. Also, more significant tasks seem to demotivate people and make them feel lazy to handle them.
What you should do is to divide the bigger task into small sub-task. And just work on a few of the tasks during the day. Achieving these smaller goals will eventually make you feel good and motivate you to work on even more complex tasks. Prioritize your tasks from the most important and urgent to the least urgent. Then work on the most important ones first.
5. Take Action Immediately
Lastly, taking prompt action on your tasks at hand is the only way to stay motivated. When tasks are left untouched, they will pile and kill your spirit. Therefore, it is important to work on your to-do list first thing in the morning.
Also, work on the most challenging tasks, or those that you are likely to procrastinate. As Brian Tracy says in his book “Eat That Frog,”. We should consider the most challenging task as a frog. They should be eaten first. When you wake up, tackle the “frog” first. Don’t be confused by the tadpoles (small and easy tasks). Concentrate on the complicated tasks first. That way, you will be motivated the whole day because you will know that you have handled the most challenging problem of the day. This will motivate you to handle the other smaller jobs with enthusiasm.
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How To Face Life’s Challenges and Overcome Adversity
You cannot avoid adversity in life. Even the most sheltered and privileged individuals find themselves in adverse conditions at some point or the other. Adversity is not convenient, and it often throws a wrench in your plans, but there is no way around this aspect of life. You have to accept that as a part of life and focus on the consequences of these situations rather than worrying about the purpose. Some say that adversity is to be considered a test of strength, and they may be right. However, I feel like we glorify adversity, too, much like all else in life. Adversity is an inconvenience that you often cannot circumvent and should be treated as such. There have been various studies that have looked into the ways in which one can overcome adversity, the foremost being having resilience.
You must remember that not every single inconvenience in life is going to be the reason life ends. It is natural for things to go wrong from time to time, and you must accept that as soon as you identify a problem. Remember that you have been through difficult situations before, and you’ll go through more of them in the future. You are strong enough to deal with whatever has been sent your way. That is not to say that you need to deal with adversity alone. Talk to your friends and family. Acknowledge and accept their help because you are not alone in your situation. More often than not, we start to take pride in how little help we ask for, but no one gets a medal for doing things the hard way. You will not receive one either. Make your life easy by asking for and accepting help when necessary.
The second thing to focus on is your surroundings. Surround yourself with positive people who are rooting for you. Your surroundings can affect your mood as well as your response to adversity. You are vulnerable in times of adversity, so the effect is even more pronounced. The right guidance at the right time. People who accept mistakes and understand how they are an essential part of life Supportive people who favor your success. While your surroundings are greatly influenced by the people around you, it is also dependent on your own mindset. Write about your feelings, and make sure you check any negative thoughts you might be having. Keep track of how you feel and how you’re responding to your surroundings. Do not indulge in self-loathing and try to be reflective instead. Understand your situation after recovering from its initial shock and move on from it when you’re comfortable doing so. Accept the situation and start to look for ways to solve your problem. It might seem like a herculean task, but the best thing to do in times of adversity is to get busy. Put your energy into making things better, and you’ll thank yourself once the situation has been resolved. In the midst of all this, do not forget to express your feelings through your writing. Eventually, you’ll be able to track your progress over time, allowing you to remember that no matter how bad things get, you can always make it through.
The modern world is full of wonderful technology, which makes our lives easier, but it is not without its limitations. One major limitation is the introduction of one more aspect of life for us to worry about. This could be anything from your social media presence to the inability to regulate how available you want to be to the people contacting you. While one may deal with these reasonably well in good times, it may not be as easy to do so in difficult times. Take a break from technology and social media in whatever capacity suits you. This ties in with the fact that you are the most important person in your life. Prioritize taking care of yourself before you take care of others. Try to take nature walks or sit in the fresh air if it is possible for you. Research shows that outdoor activities and immersion in nature reduce stress, so try to get some sunlight every day and follow your body’s natural circadian rhythm to allow for recovery.
Life has strange ways of teaching you lessons you don’t realize you need. It is important to remember to keep your eyes and mind in times of adversity to allow the learning to continue. You might see your relationships more clearly in your time of need. You can identify your own habits that may have been holding you back. Invest in your own development. Make time for yourself and make improvements to the quality of your life. You cannot pour from an empty cup, so even if you are more inclined to care for others, know that you can’t keep doing that if you’re not feeling happy and satisfied.
There will always be adversity in life, and you can be sure of that. However, none of these are situations you can not survive. The adversity can result from your actions, or it can be entirely out of your hand. The key is not to take it personally. Don’t waste your time wondering why you’ve been dealt a bad hand. Take this time to introspect and work on making sure you don’t have the same problem twice. Things will be out of your control sometimes. There will be times when the only thing to do will be to let go. In situations like that, learn to practice satisfaction and detachment. Don’t get comfortable in your misery, and it is easy to become complacent to your situation. The challenge is to take every adversity and face it head-on with the clear intention to overcome it. Know that you are capable, and you’ll surely succeed.
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What to do when motivation fades?
Motivation, by definition, is the willingness to carry out any given task. It is the drive for all human behavior and an indispensable part of life. It is always said that hard work and determination can achieve anything. Many people fail to mention that both require motivation, and motivation has never been an easy beast to tame. We often hear people talk about how the most gifted individuals have difficulty excelling due to a lack of motivation. The lack of motivation is often looked at as a derivative of laziness, but that could not be any less true. We are often harsh on our own and other people’s demotivation as we see it as a deliberate act rather than a natural emotion. We cannot speak for everyone but more often than not, people want to work hard and succeed in life. So why do we still run out of motivation, and what can we do to regain it?
The past year or so has been challenging for our planet as a whole, and there is no need to point out the dire state of our collective mental health. Pandemics, much like many other historical events, are traumatic for the masses. We are jarred by the loss of what is known to us while simultaneously being forced to act like nothing is amiss. In the midst of this pandemic, we have found ourselves feeling burnt out and demotivated. In response to this, we do the one thing that we shouldn’t, which is pushing through anyway. Ignoring the root cause of your demotivation often turns to resentment towards your task, leading to more and more dissatisfaction. You can not pour from an empty cup, so it is of utmost importance to introspect and self-improve.
We all know what the problem is; we know that we want to solve it, so half the road to improvement has already been traveled. All that is left to do now is to look into the science of it and find a solution. As per the Hierarchy of Needs theory, individuals can only be motivated to complete greater tasks if their most basic needs are met. Your loss of motivation stems from the lack of fulfillment of your most basic needs. Ask yourself these questions –
Am I taking care of my body?
Am I environmentally and financially secure?
Am I safe and loved in my relationships?
Am I in good esteem?
Am I confident in my efforts?
The answers to these questions will help you identify the reasons for your lack of motivation. If we go sequentially, the most basic need for anyone is sustenance. If you’re not taking care of your body and health, then invariably, you will end up feeling drained and demotivated. An easy fix is staying hydrated, being particular about your nutrition, and keeping your surroundings in order.
The second question pertains to your physical and financial security. Building upon the previous point, we know that bad health cannot possibly work to our full potential. Give yourself time to heal instead of trying to work while you’re not physically ready for it. You can’t walk on a broken foot forever. Do not put your health and safety in danger for your task, and watch the motivation shoot back into your life.
Humans are social beings. We cannot and should not exist in isolation. With isolation becoming a way of life in the current scenario, we have been subjected to a different kind of loss of contact. Ask yourself if you need to talk and then find someone to talk to. It could be a friend, a relative, or your therapist. In addition to this, you must re-evaluate the relationships in your life. The people you surround yourself with make a huge difference to the way you carry yourself in life. Chose the people you share your life with care. The point doesn’t just apply to romantic relationships. Any relationship that weighs down on you instead of uplifting you is only making you less likely to live up to your potential. Don’t carry the stress from these deadweight relationships, and allow yourself to grow.
The matter of esteem in the workplace is often taken for granted. One can indeed have a thick skin and not care about how others treat them in the workplace, but there is only so much one can take. Creating a safe and comfortable work environment is the first step in ensuring maximum output from yourself and your team. While it is the responsibility of the workspace to ensure good esteem, it is also a personal responsibility to make sure you command the respect you deserve. Holding people in good regard and being held with the same helps keep up motivation and thus improves output.
The last thing that you must evaluate is yourself and your self-esteem. It is always great to have people who support you around, but it counts for nothing if you don’t believe in yourself. The most important person you need in your corner is you. You can only stay motivated if you know that your effort counts for something, and thus it is incredibly important to believe in yourself.
Ideally, motivation would be straightforward, and its lack would be easily remedied. Unfortunately, what is ideal is not always real and so staying motivated is hard work. Acknowledge that and make an active effort to evaluate your situation. If you know your needs and know how to fulfill them, you will never run out of motivation. Make sure to keep yourself at peace so that you can perform to your full potential. On some days, motivation may be difficult to find, but I assure you it exists within you. It is up to you to know yourself and see it daily, be it through meditation, affirmations, or a good night’s sleep. Know that you’re not wrong or lazy for feeling demotivated, and then go ahead and regain it. The world is your oyster, don’t let this minor slump dissuade you.
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How to deal with procrastination.
We often find ourselves putting off tasks that need our attention to the very last minute. It is rarely a result of laziness, but people, ourselves included, have a hard time understanding. You want to do the job, and you know that it is required of you, but you find yourself unable to focus, so you defer it. Procrastination is often the sign of something deeper.
Considering the current situation in the world, people have found themselves getting more and more aware of the mental hurdles that students and workers have faced for ages. Procrastination is often the result of being burnt out or exhausted; sometimes, it can also result from a lack of confidence in your abilities.
I think that it helps to approach procrastination with a well planned and kind approach. Understand why you’re demotivated and procrastinating, then make a plan to combat it. A pro tip in the matter would be to focus less on the result and more on your effort. Shifting the focus from the result can help you combat any undue anxiety/stress you may have, related to the job at hand.
Secondly, set achievable goals for yourself. If you have 15000 words to write, then start by setting the goal to make notes to build your writing on. By setting achievable goals, you allow for your mind to get used to the feeling of fulfilling a task. Once you’re able to enter that mindset, it will enable you to set bigger goals and thus complete your work.
The next thing to think about in the matter of procrastination is planning. The previous points may help you not procrastinate now, but you have to make long-term changes to see long-lasting results. You must start planning things so as to allow yourself the time to complete all your tasks comfortably. Try to map out your day in advance; this does not mean that you should mark every second of every day. Mapping out your day just refers to jotting down the main tasks you need to complete on that particular day. You can choose to do a little bit of a lot of tasks in a day or the entirety of one or two tasks a day. Either way, this approach will allow you to be mentally prepared for your work and will thus help you avoid procrastination.
It is almost like tricking your brain into wanting to work, but you’ve got to do whatever it takes to get things done.
Moving on to the point of self-confidence, we must address the fact that people often avoid tasks because they’re scared of failure. It is essential to understand that victories and failures are part and parcel of life. It is impossible to have one and not the other. The hustle culture often tells people that they need to work to the point of exhaustion every single day, and all their days should be full of success and nothing else. The truth is that for every victory, there have been that many, if not more, failures that have paved the way. Real-life is not all flowers and rainbows, and that is not something to lament about; this just gives us all the more reason to forgive our own mistakes and move on. The less you worry about failure, the more you’ll be able to work; this ties in with the idea of focusing on your efforts rather than the results.
The tips mentioned here will certainly aid in avoiding procrastination, but it is not a sure-shot way to efficiency. Sometimes you succeed, and sometimes you don’t, but the point is always to try. If you still find yourself procrastinating, then it may point to a different problem. It may be because you’re not interested in your tasks. If you often find yourself dreading your job, then it may be time for re-evaluation. On re-evaluation, if you find that you’re not interested in your work, then it may be time for a change. If you find that you are interested in your job yet find yourself falling short of your capability, then it is worth a shot to try counseling. A surprisingly large number of individuals suffer from physical and mental ailments that do not allow them to function to their full potential. It may be a manifestation of poor physical health, poor nutrition, or poor mental health. If you feel like procrastination and demotivation are new to you, re-evaluate your lifestyle and make changes to promote better output.
The conclusion is that procrastination is normal and not a good enough reason to beat yourself down. Don’t get comfortable in this zone and make an effort to return to your work. Understand that you are human and cannot always work at the same frequency and adjust according to your present situation. Know that doing a little bit of a task is better than doing none of it and go from there. Take small steps in the direction of productivity because sometimes the smallest step in the right direction becomes the biggest step towards changing your life.
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How to Overcome Feeling suicidal
If you are having suicidal thoughts, your situation may feel overwhelming, with no end in sight. It is important to realize that you are not alone, many others have felt similar pain and the same desperation. Yet, there are ways to deal with suicidal feelings and there are people who want to help.
There are well-trodden paths to lead you out of the depths of your despair and on, to new possibilities and a brighter future. So, reach out to people who have been where you are now and have found their way past the pain and the hopelessness. You don’t need to suffer all alone, in silence.
With the right support, and given time, you can overcome your problems and leave the pain and suicidal thoughts behind. Think of the people who care about you, and how you could make a difference to someone else. Think of good times in your past where life was worth living. Unleash the inner courage we all have inside us and get yourself back to those good times.
To find your strength to face life again, embrace these thoughts:
How you feel now will definitely change as time passes, give it a chance
What you are experiencing now could change tomorrow or next week
If you leave us, your friends and loved ones would suffer unnecessary grief and loss
There are so many wonderful experiences you will miss, that you deserve
There is so much you could achieve as your life matures
You have so much to give to others less fortunate than you
There are many reasons why people suffer deep emotional pain which can lead to thoughts of suicide. It can be hard to see real solutions to your problems, and you may resist connecting with people who can help. Like other people who have been there too, you can recover and move on. Don’t be afraid to seek help through therapy, medication and support, to improve your situation and don’t give up before you’ve found the solution that suits you best.
To overcome suicidal thoughts and feelings, follow these steps:
Make a firm resolve to wait a little longer before doing anything drastic
Don’t make things worse by turning to alcohol or drugs. Your thoughts may take on exaggerated proportions and your problems seem much larger than they really are
Get rid of anything that could do you harm, like weapons or medications, or go somewhere safe where these types of things are not easily accessible or in plain view
Seek help. Share your thoughts and feelings with someone you care about or talk to someone you trust like a doctor or clergy, or teacher or coach.
People do survive such awful feelings of despair or depression, so there is plenty of hope for you, too. Give it time and don’t keep your problems to yourself, seek help and support.
Talking about your suicidal thoughts and your difficulty coping can be hard to do. But just decide to set aside your embarrassment or feelings of guilt and talk to someone who will truly listen and won’t judge you.
Tell them you are having thoughts of suicide and explain why you have come to this desperate state of mind. You could even jot it down in notes if you find talking too difficult at first. If your friends aren’t nearby, you could call a crisis helpline for immediate help.
While you may be feeling suicidal at the present, this isn’t permanent, you will feel better again over time. Give yourself the gift of life by working through your despair and chipping away at it until you see the brighter future that is just waiting for you to grasp it. Be sure to:
Talk to someone you trust, or a crisis helpline, every day.
Avoid isolation. Spend time with people you like and who care about you, as often as possible. This is reconnecting with the everyday world.
Draw up a safety plan, devise positive steps to take when things get really desperate; who to call; reassuring actions that will divert your anxiety.
Don’t do sad things, go for a walk instead and take in the beauty of a sunny day and the wonder of nature
Stick to a regular exercise routine or workout, which will help make you feel good and stimulate positive thoughts
Find the little things that bring you pleasure and joy, and embrace these things
Develop personal goals with little, achievable steps that will get you there as you persevere. Write down your goals and work out what action needs to be taken to achieve them. This will give you something concrete and positive to focus on, looking ahead to better times.
Take on a new hobby, sport or interest. Join a church choir or do some community volunteering which will make you feel good while at the same time helping others less fortunate than you.
The healing process will help you deal with stress and anxiety, and overcome your feelings of despair and suicidal thoughts. Focus on the good things in life, your new interests, your renewed faith in your ability to cope. Keep building your support network and surround yourself with positive people and worthwhile activities to help keep you on track and on the road to recovery.
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How to Get Back on Track When You Stop Believing in Yourself
Life is a rollercoaster ride. Sometimes you are up while at other times you are down and on occasion, you can feel so low, you do not see a way out of the situation. When you stop believing in yourself, it can be difficult to bounce back. However, it is essential that you find a way to bounce back and believe in yourself once more. Depression can take hold of you before you even realize it is happening, so here are some ways you can get back on track when you stop believing in yourself.
Take a Break from Social Media
Social media is a great way to connect with old friends and make new ones, but there is a darker side to social media sites that rarely receive adequate attention. We scroll through social media absentmindedly at times and what we see is a lot of posts about our friends going on amazing trips, meeting cool people, and overall having a better life than we think we have. Comparisons begin to form in our minds and we can begin to doubt ourselves and what we are capable of.
We often neglect to remember that social media posts are only a small fraction of the other person’s life. They only post what they want others to see and sometimes, even the most convincing posts can turn out to be a complete fallacy. Take it all in with a grain of salt and if it becomes too much for you, you always have the option of taking a break from it all. Taking a break from social media is among the healthiest things you can do for your mental health. You will focus more on your life and your accomplishments instead of focusing on others who may or may not be giving out the whole truth.
Make Peace with Yourself
When we are young, we often have an idealized view of what our life is going to be. Unfortunately, life often has different plans. You may not have the smoking hot spouse or that amazing job that brings in piles of money and it is perfectly fine that you do not. Everyone has their own journey to take in life. Some of us are meant to be superstars while others are meant to be the supporting cast. Without everyone involved from the lighting specialist to the set designer, the show cannot go on, so even if your life is not ideal, you have a place in this world.
It is time to make peace with your life. Bumps in the road happen and sometimes, you are completely derailed from your chosen path. It all has a purpose and is what makes you who you are. Accept your current situation as it is and if you truly want to change something in your life, go after it. Make small changes in your life to help change the entire situation and remember, as long as you are living your life to the best of your ability, you are not failing.
Trust Yourself Again
With a continual barrage of negativity, it is easy to begin to distrust your abilities. Self-doubt is a common problem, but one that is easy to contend with if you try. Failure is a part of life and just because you fail at something the first time, does not mean you should give up. Find what strengths you have and invest in those. Every single person on the planet has something that they can contribute to their society or individual household. Find it, do it, and have confidence in what you are doing. You might fail, but that is ok. On the other side of the coin, you could succeed, so look on the positive side instead of the negative.
Fear is a Liar
Fear is a funny thing. It is merely a depiction of what could happen but has not happened yet. It essentially does not exist but is something that we all contend with. Fear is a liar and you must keep that in mind when you are working to achieve goals. Fear can be used in a positive way to drive you to do greater things. Use your fear to drive you to the positive instead of allowing it to cripple you.
You are not done with life. You are not failing. You can do anything you set your mind to that you are willing to work for. Hold these truths in your mind when working toward a goal. We all have an important place in the world and we all, as individuals, make up the great entity known as humanity. Even those that seem to have it all together can experience levels of self-doubt. Push those feelings aside and strive for greater things. Your life is important and where you are right now, does not have to be where you are in the very near future.
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How To Heal When You’ve Hit Rock Bottom.
How To Heal When You’ve Hit Rock Bottom:
Strategies For Recovery & Moving Forward
Hitting rock bottom usually means that life has dealt you blows in a lot of ways simultaneously. Your business isn’t doing well; your spouse has left, and a loved one — perhaps a parent — died recently. It takes all your emotional resources, often, to cope with even one of those major life events, but when they hit at or around the same time, it feels like you’ve gone to the well once too often, and now it’s dry. Hitting rock bottom feels like you will never recover, never see the sunshine, metaphorically, ever again.You will, even though it seems impossible right now. We have some suggestions for how to heal, pick up the pieces and start moving forward. Try these and you’ll find that, inch by inch, moment by moment, you’ll start feeling better and see good times just over the horizon.
1) Let yourself feel, or you can’t begin to heal. If you try to deny how dreadful you feel, or how big a loss you’ve experienced, you can’t begin to recover. Spend some time alone and take real stock of what’s happened — and why — and what you might have done differently in those moments. Notice we say differently, not better, because this is not the time for self-recrimination and blame. Be honest about your role in, for example, marital breakdown, but blaming yourself constantly is not going to help. You need to recognize your part, and then come up with ways you can avoid making the same mistakes again.
2) Press pause on life for a moment. This is part of taking the time to really examine what’s happened and how deeply hurt and upset you are because of it. If you keep up a hectic schedule that allows no time for reflection, rock bottom will go on indefinitely because you will remain emotionally bruised even when you’re out rushing around being busy.
3) Channel your energy into a creative endeavor. It’s amazing just how restorative the arts can be when you’re depressed. Take up painting, or pound some clay and make a sculpture or take up the piano or guitar. These activities get you out of your own head and refocus your attention elsewhere, and eventually, the sense of accomplishment that comes with, say, knowing how to strum your favorite song is exhilarating. You don’t have to become great at it — this is a way for you to heal the hurt in your soul, not a way for you to become a professional performer. To quote William Shakespeare, “music soothes the savage breast,” and he knew what he was talking about.
4) Get outside and explore nature. Like taking up an art form, going outside is a great way to get out of your own head. Taking long walks, going for a run or even just exploring a local park is a terrific way to expend pent up energy and restore a feeling of calm. There is a reason doctors recommend regular exercise to depressed people — it helps!
5) Talk to people who believe in you. It’s easy to be your harshest critic, so call up someone who thinks highly of you, someone you are comfortable confiding in, and tell them how you’re feeling. Chances are, they will do their best to console you, and may offer insights and experiences that can help you cope. Perhaps they’ve experienced a job loss or a marriage breakup, and have come through the other side of it healthy and whole. Don’t be afraid to be honest about how badly you feel; human connection and consolation is one of the best, most fundamental tools of recovery you have at your disposal. If you are truly feeling hopeless and that feeling persists, consider talking with a therapist. But following these guidelines can go a long way toward healing your sense of gloom, and begin lifting you out of rock bottom, and get you on your way to a better, brighter, and more productive day.
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How to Make Money, Get in Better Shape, Create Amazing Relationships, and Take Control of Your Life
This title might actually scare you a little, but don’t worry, you do not have to be super human to get all of this accomplished. We see people that seem to have it all. The money, awesome bodies, amazing relationships, and have their lives truly in order. How do they do it? How do they keep everything together long enough to get it all done? The answer is, they did not do everything at once. We will take each one of these entities on individually so you can see how it can all be brought together in your own life.
Work to Be Healthier
It can be difficult to be truly happy with your life when you are out of shape. Although we are not speaking of mere vanity, eating right and exercising can have a severely positive effect on your mind and body as well. In order to begin to take control of your life, you must first learn to control your own body and your urges.
We all love a good calorie filled meal from time to time. Filling ourselves with foods we love can make us feel great in the short term, but the effects never last. Changing habits you have in regard to food is the best way to begin reshaping your life. Include more healthy options than unhealthy ones by finding food you can enjoy that will not make you regret your decisions. Invest in fresh fruits and vegetables while reducing your intake of carbs. Choose lean proteins such as chicken, turkey, and fish, as opposed to a big juicy steak or pork chops. Change happens through seemingly insignificant changes over the course of your life.
As for exercise, start slowly. Taking on an intensive exercise routine too fast can lead to burnout. Start by walking a little more each day, starting a once per week fitness class, or playing sports with your kids outside more. Slowly build your exercise routine from there.
Creating High Quality Relationships
When people say relationship, they often think of the romantic variety, but you have to remember, the best romantic relationships start out as friendships. Focus on finding friends that enjoy the same activities you do. Attend gatherings of like minded people. Join a hiking club, religious organization, or social events that meet your specific desires of what you want to accomplish in life. Invest in friends that build you up without dragging you down. Friends with negative habits should be avoided and distancing yourself from these people is essential for your overall happiness.
Once you have found what you love and have invested time with friends that love the same things, you will find the friendships made there are worthy of your affections. You can find a deeper relationship with someone who likes the same activities as you do as opposed to someone you are just physically attracted to. The deepest relationships have intimacy on all levels, not just the physical and it all starts with a deep rooted friendship.
Making Money
This aspect is at the bottom of the list, because it is ultimately, the least important. Although everyone seems to claim money is the most important thing, it is essential that you work on yourself and your relationship with others before making significant money. People are far more important than monetary gain, but once you have established relationships with others and invested in your own wellbeing, making money can be your next step.
Take some time to examine those that already have money and see what they did to get it. What you will find, is that each of these wealthy individuals, unless they were already heir to a fortune, started out by solving a problem. Some have gained wealth by creating an essential app or computer program. Others have created accessories. Still, there are some that create never before seen inventions. The point is to find a problem and solve it.
There Are More Paths to Wealth
Solving a problem for humanity and making a product to sell is considered the big dream and it can happen for some if they are willing to invest the time and attention into marketing their idea and it is truly unique. However, there are other ways to make money without having a product. Many have invested in stocks to help bring about wealth. This option is for those who are analytically minded and understand stocks that will take off. Investing in stocks can be risky and the best way to do it is to be versatile in your investments. Never invest all your savings in one stock.
When evaluating your life, do not compare it to others. There are some that seem to have it all, but no one is perfect. Always keep that in mind. Even the wealthiest and seemingly most successful people have a few flaws. Your life is important and it is time to take hold of it, so invest in getting into shape while eating better, find friends that meet your personality, and then take time to make some money.
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How To Turn your negative thoughts and insecurities into greatest strengths
We all have those moments when we wonder whether or not we are going to make it, are we on the right track, have we done the right thing? This is essentially human and could be turned into a force for good if we harness it correctly. We are talking about self-doubt.
Sooner or later we are all going to be confronted with some degree of self-doubt over a stance we have taken, something we said, or actions we have put in motion. Was it the right thing to do? Doubting yourself can be self-destructive. The worst enemy of getting ahead in life is self-doubt. It will hold you back and make you lose good opportunities that you should otherwise have embraced. It can also adversely affect your ability to build rewarding social relationships.
Anyone who claims they don’t experience moments of self-doubt is surely fooling themselves. Some people have very confident personalities and may not often concede that they have concerns about themselves. On the other hand, people who are timid and lack self-confidence may doubt themselves a lot more often.
So, in part, the degree of self-doubt you experience in your life can be a personality trait. Alternatively, it may be a result of your environment. If people are constantly put down and belittled, either by an overbearing partner or perhaps at work, they may begin to doubt themselves and their validity, more and more.
Ask yourself why? Once you understand where your self-doubt comes from and why it affects you the way it does, you are already on the path to overcoming this state of mind. So, go ahead, ask those searching questions, dig deep and gain a better understanding of why you are letting self-doubt affect your mental wellbeing and diminish your self-image.
Next, you need to actively develop a positive response and set up steps to overcome your lack of self-assurance and your insecurities.
Stop comparing yourself to others, celebrate the fact that you’re different.
Overcome your fear of failure
Start to believe in yourself
Rely on your own innate wisdom and your instincts to guide you
Don’t dwell on mistakes of the past, just learn from them and move on
Don’t fear the risk of failure, instead, fear the absence of progress
If you are feeling negative, tell yourself to get over it and move on
Don’t worry that people might judge your performance harshly, just do your best and be proud of yourself
Write down a Pros and Cons list when conflicting over a good opportunity that has come your way. If you go for the opportunity, what is the worst that could happen? What is the best that could happen? Rein in your self-doubt by logically exploring the best and worst scenarios to discover that in fact, often there is more in the gains column than there is in the loss column.
Confide in a friend or someone you love. Tell them your doubts and fears and get some dispassionate feedback. Talking about it and gaining new insight from someone else’s perspective can be invaluable.
Turn your negative thoughts and insecurities into something positive. Go to seminars and workshops on how to harness positive thoughts and optimism to power you forward into a more successful life. Learn how to dispel negativity and focus on the positive.
Use failures and setbacks as lessons to guide you on how to avoid the same mistakes. This is how we all gain experience and become more successful in the future.
When you have achieved a milestone that you wanted, make sure you celebrate your success. This will boost your motivation to grasp other challenges and it will improve your confidence.
When you have learned to embrace your own strengths and good qualities your insecurities and self-doubt are able to fade into the background.
None of us are perfect, so you are not alone. When you start to recognize your better qualities and learn to love yourself despite a few imperfections, you are on the path to a more positive and more fulfilling life.
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How To Overcome Adversities In Life.
Five Key Techniques For Coping With Bad Times
Sometimes it feels like the universe has given us everything we’ve ever asked for. But other times we get so down and exhausted by the hurdles thrown at us we feel like crawling into bed and pulling the covers over our heads.
It may sound trite, but there’s no escaping adversity — everyone, sooner or later, has to face it. The secret is how some people cope with seemingly endless difficulties — illness, the death of a loved one, job loss or divorce — or all four — and somehow get through it and end up smiling. How do they do it, you ask? We’re here to offer a few tips for coping with the profound trouble’s life tosses your way. Next time, think of these suggestions and you’ll see your way out of adversity more easily.
1) Remember That Everything Passes: Even the worst. It may sound like cold comfort, but the worst issue you face will, in fact and eventually, pass. You’ve lost your job — you will get another, and in the meantime make economic adjustments at home. No matter how much adversity tries to knock you down, once you really understand the problem, get on with the business of finding solutions. And don’t forget: ask for help when you need it.
2) Discover Your Sense of Humour: Finding reasons to laugh, even simple ones, puts a smile on everyone’s face. Watch cat videos online. Spend time with a special friend who makes you laugh. There may be no humor to find in the problem you’re facing, but there is humor in life. Distract yourself even temporarily by laughing, and you’ll feel better instantly.
3) Take Inventory Of Where You Are: By that we mean you need to take stock of your life, of your strengths, weaknesses, talents and other qualities. Adversity gives you the chance to employ your life skills, and develop them further. When we think about problems in the abstract, we imagine we would never be able to deal with them: a breakup, perhaps, or the death of a favourite pet. But then it happens, and somehow, you cope. Maybe not well at first, but eventually you figure out how to live, and live well, in spite of what’s happened. And that helps brace you for the next hurdle.
4) Seize The Chance For Change: Okay, so your partner dumped you. It’s tough, but no matter how long you two were together, your new status presents the opportunity to embrace change. Think of all that’s available to you in your new circumstances, and go for it. Do some silly things, like get a new haircut or take up a hobby — anything you couldn’t do as part of a couple. Just don’t sit at home stewing.
5) Never, Ever Give Up: Especially on yourself. Adversity comes to everyone, so understand it’s not something you did, or asked for, or are to blame for. Think of all your qualities that people love, and have helped you get where are today.
Every successful person on the planet has faced adversity — try reading about Oprah’s childhood, then think of all she’s overcome. Or Walt Disney. Did you know he was let go from a job early in his career for lack of creativity? Can you imagine!?
Our point is that adversity comes to us all. Now it’s time to handle it, and get on with the business of living your most fabulous life. You can do it!
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